Why is Love So Hard

When you’re in a loving relationship, it feels like your heart might burst from all the love you feel. Like a 1500-foot freefall, it’s more than just feeling butterflies in your stomach. You can almost taste it. It’s the kind of love that makes you want to dive headfirst into a relationship, no matter what the future holds.

There’s also a lot of uncertainty when you first fall in love, even when it’s not the first time. You might not know how the other person feels, and you might worry about timing or if you’re ready for a serious relationship. All of these feelings are normal. It’s how we’re put together. It’s the adrenaline rush of the unexpected, similar to when your pal dares you to go through the Haunted House again and don’t flinch this time. When you first fall in love, you’re diving into a new relationship that can be exciting and overwhelming at the same time. Conflicting emotions that meld into a mushy goo of delightful energy that can keep you awake and cause even the heartiest appetite to vanish.

Falling in Love is scary.

There’s a difference between being in love and being in a relationship. When you fall in love with someone, it’s easy to get caught up in the euphoria of the new relationship. This is normal, but it’s also a good idea to take a step back and get to know the person. You may be infatuated with the person, but that doesn’t mean you’re in love. It’s important to take your time when you fall in love so you can get to know the other person. Falling in love can be very scary at times. If you fall in love with someone who doesn’t feel the same way, it can be hurtful and confusing.

Love can feel like too much to handle.

You may feel like you can’t handle the feelings of love because you don’t know how to handle them. You may not know how to properly express your feelings to your partner, or you may feel like you’re overstepping your boundaries. Love can be overwhelming because you’ll feel so many different emotions, including lust, joy, and fear. (Side note: LUST is the tricky one. I doubt any single issue has ever been more misinterpreted by humans since the dawn of time)

You may not know how to properly communicate your feelings, or you may feel like you don’t know what’s appropriate or normal in a relationship. It’s normal to feel a ton of emotions when you’re in love, but it’s important to not bottle up your feelings. You should feel comfortable expressing yourself to your partner and vice versa. If you feel like love is too much to handle, talk to a friend or family member to vent. It’s also a good idea to read books or take a class on relationships to learn more about what’s normal and appropriate in a relationship.

Time to pull up your big-boy pants. If you’re getting your romance advice from Twitter or some “Too Hot to Handle” type TV show, you should sit down, place your head completely between your knees and simply kiss your own ass.

And for those of you who think life imitates the last Rom-Com you saw, they will not magically come running back to you just because you had an epiphany while standing in line at the airport.

Why is love so hard?

When you’re in love, it’s easy to forget the challenges you will face when you get into a relationship. You may forget that relationships take a lot of work and that it takes time to be successful. If you don’t work on your relationship, it can be easy for it to fall apart. It’s important to remember that love is hard, and it takes time, patience and effort to build a successful relationship.

If she’s an irrational bitch now, just imagine life with her when the kids are out of control and there’s no money in the bank.

And, to be fair, if that prick lied to you – yes – he WILL do it again.

Don’t be blinded by the emotions. Grow up. Read the signs. Get help, if needed. The rewards of a real love are overwhelmingly worth it. But the consequences for bad judgment can be devastating on the same scale.

You might not be sure if the other person feels the same way.

It’s normal to wonder if your partner loves you as much as you love them. But if you start to obsess over this, it can be concerning. You may question if the other person feels the same way, or you may worry that you’re not feeling the same level of love as the other person. When you’re in a new relationship, it’s easy to get caught up in your feelings and forget to check in with your partner. You may also be afraid to ask your partner how they feel because you don’t want to open yourself up to rejection. It’s important to remember that you don’t have to know how your partner feels. You just have to be honest with yourself.

Relationships take a lot of work.

Love is not a fairy tale. While it can feel magical and like it’s too good to be true, it can also be challenging, frustrating, and scary. It’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of a new relationship, but you should remember to take your time. It can take months or even years for you to truly understand your partner and for your partner to understand you. When you first start a new relationship, it can be easy to ignore red flags because you’re so excited to be in a new relationship. You may be confused by your partner’s behavior or you may not be sure how to approach an issue in your relationship because you’ve never been in one before.

Did I mention you should take a step back and read the signs or get help? When your brain is being controlled by your heart (or what you think is your heart, but quite often it’s your crotch), talk to a stable parent. If that’s not an option, try a sibling or extended family member who is already in a long-term successful relationship. Emphasis on “successful.”

Side note: watching Dr. Phil will only work if you’re just as big a twit as the ass-clown you think you’ve fallen in love with.

You will experience betrayal and rejection.

In every relationship, you will experience rejection and betrayal. It’s inevitable. You may experience rejection when your partner isn’t ready to be in a relationship, or they simply aren’t ready to be with you. You will also experience betrayal when your partner hurts you or breaks your trust. It can be easy to feel like relationships are a waste of time when you experience betrayal or rejection. It can be hurtful, confusing, and even devastating at times. It’s important to remember that these experiences are normal and that you can move past them. You can’t control what other people do, but you can control how you react. It’s important to find someone who treats you with respect and trusts you. It’s also important to know how to respond when someone betrays you or rejects you. You don’t have to let these situations define you or end your relationships. You can learn from them and use them as a chance to grow as a person.

Refer back to my earlier comments about that lying prick.

3 Ways to build your relationship confidence

- Get to know your partner: It’s important to know the person you’re dating and that they’re someone you want to be with. This doesn’t mean you have to fall in love with the person, but you should have a basic understanding of who they are and why they make a good partner for you.

- Be honest about your feelings: It’s important to not bottle up your feelings when you’re in a relationship. You should feel comfortable expressing how you feel and asking your partner how they feel as well. A good relationship is an honest relationship.

- Don’t judge your relationship: You shouldn’t label your relationship or put expectations on it. Instead, you should stay in the moment and enjoy your relationship for what it is right now. If it’s just a casual romp, don’t expect or demand more.

Bottom line

Love can be a rollercoaster ride of emotions and experiences that are challenging, scary and often feel impossible to navigate. But the reward of a great relationship and a real connection is worth the work. To make it work, you have to be open and honest with your partner, and you need to understand that love takes time.

Like a flower, it doesn’t begin with the beautiful results. The seed has to be nurtured. Cultivated. It needs time to grow. Let it develop naturally, pruning only when absolutely necessary. When the bloom fully opens, it can be breathtaking.

Okay, yes – that last analogy was a lot of sappy mush that made me cringe when I read it back. **sigh**

But I left it because I’ve lived it.